Are You Emotionally Depleted?

Know when to Take a Break…

How’s your life going right now?
• Is nothing going right?
• Do you feel stretched too thin?
• Are you feeling overwhelmed?
• Are you forgetting things you normally remember?
• Do you have less patience usual?
• Are you sad most of the time?
• Do you feel chronically exhausted?
• Do you feel like you have nothing left to give?

You are likely EMOTIONALLY DEPLETED.

Overcome Your Emotional Depletion.

In a word – REST!
Overcome your emotional depletion by resting. You may fear that everything will fall apart or things around you won’t work properly if you stop and rest. Rest is often what you need and the thing you resist the most.

Rest is vital. You gain strength when you rest. If you try to keep going not only will your body feel exhausted but you’ll become mentally and emotionally exhausted as well. You may end up depressed or develop ‘flu-like’ symptoms that you just can’t seem to get rid of.
Recharge your emotional and physical batteries through rest.

Rest gives you back your perspective. You get your perspective back by resting. Take a break or rest so time and distance allow you to see what is actually going on. Even taking a break of 24 hours can help you gain insight into your life. Resting helps you discover a new perspective. Resting helps you see how you became emotionally exhausted. Resting gives you insight into to how to change things in your life so you don’t end up exhausted again.
Recover your perspective through rest.

Recharge yourself in other ways. You need time for yourself. Schedule it. Find at least an hour a week and make sure it is away from your house. Go to a local coffee house. Walk through a park. Do something you enjoy that is relaxing. Just sit and relax – no cell phone, no computer, no distractions. Use your hour to reflect on your life, how things are going and how you can begin to change them. Remember that you didn’t become emotionally depleted and exhausted overnight.

It will take you time to change things and recharge.

Avoid reflecting on unproductive thoughts and ask yourself these questions:
• How did I get here?
• What can I do differently to change my life?

Be kind to yourself. Understand that you are emotionally depleted or heading that way. Now is the time to do something about it. If you are really struggling, talk to someone. A friend, a therapist or a clergy person can help you find the perspective you need. You will find a way to recharge your emotional batteries. Take small steps. You’ll find yourself feeling great again as you rebuild and recharge. Remember:

Know when to take a break – your physical and emotional health deserves it.

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Dear Lori,

I feel like a fool. I have been dating a man for 2 years and just found out he is married. I have been thinking about how I didn’t see the signs. How could I have been so stupid! I think of myself as a bright person, this just doesn’t make sense to me. I feel that my entire world has been turned upside down. The worst part is as mad as I am at him, I have NEVER met anyone like him and I love him. I know it not right to continue seeing him. So I have stopped, but it’s been 5 months and I still really miss him think about him all the time. 2 days ago he called me and I took the call. I know I shouldn’t have , but I just wanted to hear his voice. He asked me to meet him. I asked if he was still married. He said yes. I told him I couldn’t meet a married man. Now the problem is I really want to see him. I pick-up the phone to call him so many times during the day. It is beginning to interfere with my work. I don’t know what to do. Should I get back together with him because I really believe he is my soul mate or stay away and torture myself, because he is married?

Sincerely,

Stuck on a Married Man

Dear Stuck,

There are so many issues within the letter you wrote. Let me try to break it down for you a bit. Calling yourself stupid and other negative thoughts about yourself will not get you anywhere. You clearly feel morally seeing a married man is wrong. Punishing yourself for not seeing the signs is self desructive and will not help you make any good decisions about your life and what you should do. So the first thing you need to do is forgive yourself, you say you really didn’t know he was married, and I beleive this is your truth. So why continue to beat yourself up about something that you did not have any knowledge about?

Five months is a long time to be stuck in a situation, where your feeling are not diminishing. I would strongly suggest you get some professional help to move forward. Often when we get stuck it has a lot to do with being hurt, or anger ,or fear or sadness, or a combination of these feeling that we just can’t seem to let go. By holding onto these feelings you can not move forward. Sometime it feels as if the feelings are controlling you, and although you might want to let go of them, you can’t seem to. That is when therapy can be extemely helpful in guiding you out of being stuck and back on track.

As for seeing him or not. That is a question that only you can answer. Let’s say I suggest you never see him again, and you spend the next year resenting the fact that you can’t see your “true love”.  You will still be stuck in the same place you are right now. The fact is this is your life and on an issue like this it is your decision to make. I do feel if you go for some professional help and sort out your feelings and thoughts, the decision that is right for you will become clear to you.

I hope you seek some help soon,

Lori